I have never heard of aspies before, but since then I have done some critical self-inspection. Today I would answer “yes, maybe (a little).”
Aspergers seem unemotional and pedantic (to the point ).
- disturbances in eye contact, body language and language use
- critical self-contemplation, internal repetition of conversations
- few, heavily repeated activities
- low desire to get in contact with other people
- obsessivness with texts
- physical awkwardness
- lack of understanding social cues
- strong sense for social justice
- heavily planned daily schedule
- credulity
Very briefly, Aspergers can be described as a lack of empathy.
The autism spectrum knows varying degrees of severity. The most famous autistic is certainly the strongly autistic Dustin Hoffman in the movie Rain Man.
Aspergers is a relatively mild form of autism. Many Aspies can learn social interaction with enough exercise. In doing so Aspies try to imitate neurotypical people. Aspies who act neurotypical are good actors. This is easier said than done.
Asperger ribbon
How to hold eye contact
(conversation partners are expecting this)
- without staring
- without letting the eyes wander, so that the other person turns around
- without reversion to the “evil eye”
- if possible 80% eye contact when listening and 60% when talking
I like conversations while riding a bike or a car, where I don’t have to look at my conversation partner.
looking at people requires enormous attention
- look at the feet when walking -> common problems when dodging without eye contact
- when I enter a room, I have to pause to look at all those present
(people are expecting this) - recognizing acquaintances on the street or even in the supermarket is almost impossible
dialogue content
- strong urge to get straight to the point
- no pleasure in Smalltalk
(people are expecting this) - nervousness and impatience with “meaningless” talk
lack of urge for communication
- I often force myself to talk
(people are expecting this) - examination by a physician in a language school as a child
- no language disorder, I just didn’t want to talk
monotonous food
- while working, almost exactly the same food every day
- as a child when eating out exclusively schnitzel and fries
eye contact is outrageously hard
body contact
- haking hands is bad
(people are expecting this) - hugging is terrible
(some people are expecting this) - worst of all are unnecessary contacts on the street
On the street I would like to call: “It’s incredible you bumpkin, now you’ve really touched me!”
body contact #2
- dismay if I accidently touch your hand, when paying
- in 2 months of Thailand not a single Thai-massage
- a meaningless one night stand is my nightmare
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One man’s heaven is another man’s hell. My hell is full of massage tables, brothels and bouncy castles.
When traveling, I have almost no chance to live out my autism. That is why the world trip is a good exercise for me.
Usually people look at you when they’re talking to you. I know that they’re working out what I’m thinking, but I can’t tell what they’re thinking.
It is like being in a room with a one-way mirror in a spy film.(The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time – Mark Haddon)
Aspie view of other people
- men are on average further than women on the autistic spectrum
- clinical cases of autism are eight times more frequently in menr
Women are thus demonstrably more empathetic and socially competent …
Flocs Aspietest:
Dear reader, do you think you might also be an aspie? Then I’ve got a simple test for you. Please read the very short novel The pigeon by Patrick Süskind.
If you consider the story to be realistic or if you can even identify with Jonathan Noel, then welcome among us Aspies.
Kathmandu 44600, Nepal 
Und auch deshalb fahr ich gern Mountainbike mit Dir.
Aspies sind auch nur Mountainbiker (-;
Puh, hab schon gedacht, des liegt an mir… Bin ich jetzt Egoie?
thankyou, this is really interesting. The comparison with the one way mirror in a spyfilm is genious! An Aspie desperately needs a cue because it is not before his very eyes. I`m quite sure I`ve got some Aspie in me, otherwise I wouldn`t be so fascinated to learn more about Aspergers.
A maybe more reliable Aspie test:
Autism-Spectrum Quotient Test
I scored 31 points. Everyone below 32 is no Aspie (-;